Yesterday I’ve read a NY times article about Madonna. She gave some pretty blunt statements about women, ageing, and even presidential elections. Sexuality didn’t go untouched either.
I thought about her statement saying that it is considered a taboo for a woman to share her own sexual fantasies with the world. It’s an unspoken rule.
She says that if it’s there to please a man, it’s OK, but if the woman is behind something sexual herself and owns it, that’s a taboo.
From my experience, this is true! I had people ask me if I am doing sexy photoshoots because my man likes it. They just assume that there is a man behind it who stirs me in this direction.
When I tell them that this is my own blog / video / idea and so on, they are kind of surprised. Of course later some even wonder if I am a lesbian. Somehow my interests just don’t fit into that gender-appropriate box.
Another stage is when I explain that I am the one who likes stockings and lingerie and I am in a committed relationship, there is this shock of “How does the guy allow this without getting jealous or suspicious?”
I wanted to make it clear to all of you reading, I don’t do any nudity or anything obscene. In the past I had some classy and tasteful lingerie videos on Youtube and of course they are no longer there because people kept on flagging even fully-clothed videos if the outfit involved pantyhose.