Controversial Views of Natalia Tolstaya

February 23, 2013 under Love

It’s a hard decision whether to write about this or not, since many people who know me personally may not expect this.  Probably I wouldn’t talk about this openly if it weren’t for several sexologists who I greatly admire and follow online.

It may be surprising to some people that family counselling professionals advise women not to blame their husbands for watching explicit movies, but in fact to join them and get some new ideas together.

Biology didn’t make people monogamous, so it’s best for him to have his chance to view something at home, together with his spouse, rather than go off to explore it in reality when she is not around.  Natalia Tolstaya, a Russian sexologist, holds this point of view.

Natalia suggests to women to take their men and go explore the sex shop, even if it means dragging the guy in by force.

Did you know that the first sex shop was started by a woman in Germany?  I suppose that’s why German sex shops are considered to be the best in the world.  Not everybody though liked the idea at first.  For example, the first shop in Canada (Ultra Love in Vancouver) had protests by angry women outside of it in the 70’s when it just opened up.

There is also a new trend of sex museums around Europe.  Moscow recently opened a sex exhibit with amazing artifacts from all over the world, both antique and modern.  Here is a photo of a fashion show that they hosted for a line of lingerie.

Besides things like stockings, magazines, oils, I truly was surprised to see that there were adult pantyhose-themed and stockings-themed movies available on the market too.  There are a couple of good labels, like Swank, for that material.  Leg Show and Leg Sex are also two popular labels for magazines, but according to recent news the first one has ceased publication.

So, what are you waiting for?  Go explore, we live only once.

 

Pantyhose Obsession and Fetish

June 4, 2011 under Love

black opaque pantyhose

f-e-t-i-s-h …  dangerous topic.  Yes, pantyhose obsession is not uncommon.  #1 obsession in the world is shoes.  #2 is pantyhose and stockings.

I had a lot of men telling me that they have a love for hosiery.  Why wouldn’t a man be attracted to such a feminine garment?  I think this is the most classiest kink out there.

Some have difficulty explaining to their partner about why they like it so much.  You can’t explain it, it’s just the way you are!  How can we possibly give rational explanations to our sexual preferences?  Some men tell me that they were attracted to pantyhose since the age of 4 or 5.

If a woman truly loves her man, of course she’d be dying to dress up in clothes that make him want her so badly!  If you think about it, who else would be more important to impress with your outfit than your own lover?  Wouldn’t you want to be attractive for her too?

But what if she is not attentive to your needs and tells you that she doesn’t want to wear this kind of clothing for you, no matter how nicely you ask her?  Well, if she is your girlfriend, as hard as it is to say, I suggest you move on and find another girl that would love to please you.  If this is your wife, it’s time to have a serious conversation – could that be that she feels that her needs are not met, therefore she became cold to your desires?

The reason why I believe that couples should be absolutely compatible when it comes to sexuality is because once you marry, you can’t ask any other person for sexual satisfaction except for your own spouse.  This is what makes this union special – romance, love, sexuality.  Great conversations can exist between friends and co-workers, but sexual  intimacy is something else.

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