Controversial Views of Natalia Tolstaya

February 23, 2013 under Love

It’s a hard decision whether to write about this or not, since many people who know me personally may not expect this.  Probably I wouldn’t talk about this openly if it weren’t for several sexologists who I greatly admire and follow online.

It may be surprising to some people that family counselling professionals advise women not to blame their husbands for watching explicit movies, but in fact to join them and get some new ideas together.

Biology didn’t make people monogamous, so it’s best for him to have his chance to view something at home, together with his spouse, rather than go off to explore it in reality when she is not around.  Natalia Tolstaya, a Russian sexologist, holds this point of view.

Natalia suggests to women to take their men and go explore the sex shop, even if it means dragging the guy in by force.

Did you know that the first sex shop was started by a woman in Germany?  I suppose that’s why German sex shops are considered to be the best in the world.  Not everybody though liked the idea at first.  For example, the first shop in Canada (Ultra Love in Vancouver) had protests by angry women outside of it in the 70’s when it just opened up.

There is also a new trend of sex museums around Europe.  Moscow recently opened a sex exhibit with amazing artifacts from all over the world, both antique and modern.  Here is a photo of a fashion show that they hosted for a line of lingerie.

Besides things like stockings, magazines, oils, I truly was surprised to see that there were adult pantyhose-themed and stockings-themed movies available on the market too.  There are a couple of good labels, like Swank, for that material.  Leg Show and Leg Sex are also two popular labels for magazines, but according to recent news the first one has ceased publication.

So, what are you waiting for?  Go explore, we live only once.

 

Nicole’s Love for Ultra Sheer Pantyhose

September 5, 2012 under Style


Nicole is a stylish cross dresser from London and she has a rare preference for ultra sheer pantyhose, like 8 den or less.  I am very impressed and curious to find out why she likes it so much.

 


Q:  What’s the advantage of 8 den over 15 den? Both are sheer to me.

I have always like nude or natural shades, rather than darker sheer tights (pantyhose across the pond).

The look I try and achieve with my sheers is for a perfect skin tone match so it looks like I have only got ‘make-up’ for the legs.

Depending on how much sun or if I have been using a bronzing moisturiser, my skintone fluctuates a little. Sometimes it’s never quite a good match.

I find that 15-20 Denier whilst quite sheer do give quite a good leg / imperfection coverage. However, the challenge is always in finding ‘just right’ nude / natural shades. If my skin colouring has got a perfect match then 15s or so will be invisible.

Too dark and it can look either a bit orange – or too ‘American Tan’. Too pale, and it looks powdery.

With tights 10 denier or less, because they are so light and translucent, if I’m not a perfect skintone match for any of my varying (and embarrassingly large collection of sheers in slightly varying natural shades) then 7 or 8 denier will still work,

Additionally, as I am sure you know even sheers give you a layer. In the warmer months, some manufacturers make ‘cooling’ tights. Again – they are ultra sheer – and now they are all run resistant.

 

Q:  Do you feel more feminine wearing 8 den rather than 20 den?

I guess so – I like my tights so sheer and tone matched that I’m practically challenging people to notice. Essentially, nylons are a very feminine statement no matter if they are invisible or not. I am a complete addict and I will wear them with my male clothes, for work, with jeans – and the ubiquitous lycra that i wear for pilates, dance etc. I wax, and as any lover of nylons will tell you – sheers + smooth skin is a fairly unique sensation – though you do get used to it.

I started my cross-dressing journey at 12, and the thing that first tempted me to it was curiosity regarding wanting to try sheers on. In that respect, they do make me feel more feminine, what ever I choose to be wearing – dressed fully as a woman, or even partly. I like to have a little bit of this side to me at all times – but when I am dressed male – they are more a little reminder to myself.

As for higher deniers, I wear upto 80 denier when its very cold, and my favourite opaques are my Wolford Satin 50s

 

Q:  This is such a delicate garment.  What do you do to avoid runs?

Runs tend to be caused either by catching them on your clothes, your shoes or just by having a sharp toe or rough heels, especially in the under 10 denier weights.

I don’t use hosiery gloves firstly, but I take my watch and any jewellery off first. We all know (or in my case learned by trial and error) how to put them on properly, and I careful with zips etc with skirts, pants and jeans.

As well as my regular waxing, my beautician gives an excellent pedicure. So my heels get carefully exfoliated and then moisturised. A gel pedicure stops snaggy nails too.

The rest is just ‘wear with care!’

 

Q:  I notice that on your blog you put a special emphasis on hosiery-related topics.  What is it about hosiery that you like so much?

I have always thought of hosiery as a fantastic treat and an amazing garment. Personally, I love the fabric, stretchiness, and the sensation of the fabric on my skin. I like the impression of hiding imperfections – or providing warmth or colour and expressing myself with some of the interesting patterns. They finish off an outfit and I wouldn’t feel properly dressed without them – especially when I’m in a skirt or heels! The fact that such a fantastic sensation and luxurious sensation is traditionally closed to guys is a terrible shame!

Finally – they are what attracted me to dressing, clothes and shoes – and along with my dancewear, lycra etc – they are and will be my first love!

 

Nicole’s Blog:  http://crossdresssecret.blogspot.com

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Women in Red – more attractive! (according to a study)

March 9, 2012 under Love

Supermodel Natalia Vodianova is wearing all red, but in my opinion this Slavic beauty is overdoing it. I’ve been taught not to wear only one colour.

 

 Is Red the colour of Love?

I read something interesting in Vancouver’s Metro Newspaper.  A new study looked at what attracts men to women – it proved that red is really the colour of love!  Never estimate the power of a woman in red.

Men were asked to look at photos of women.  Part of those photos either involved a woman wearing red or were framed in red borders.  As a result, women either surrounded by red or wearing red were ranked to be most attractive.

  • Women in Red

  • – more attractive
  • – more sexually desired
  • – more likely to be asked out
  • – more likely to be spent more money on

Primitive, isn’t it?  I guess that can help women to determine what colour dress to wear to a date with someone you’d like to impress.   I think it’s time for me to add more red to my wardrobe!

 

In some cultures the word “red” is actually the same word as “beautiful”.  For example, in old Slavic languages saying “red maiden” was equivalent to “beautiful maiden”.  This expression can still be found in old Slavic folk songs.

This article reminds me of something that I’ve read in a book called E-Myth about business. It turns out that blue business suits will outsell brown business suits, regardless of who is in them. We don’t notice, but a lot of our decisions are not logical decisions at all, rather subconscious.

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Source: Metro Vancouver Newspaper, March 2012

Pantyhose Obsession and Fetish

June 4, 2011 under Love

black opaque pantyhose

f-e-t-i-s-h …  dangerous topic.  Yes, pantyhose obsession is not uncommon.  #1 obsession in the world is shoes.  #2 is pantyhose and stockings.

I had a lot of men telling me that they have a love for hosiery.  Why wouldn’t a man be attracted to such a feminine garment?  I think this is the most classiest kink out there.

Some have difficulty explaining to their partner about why they like it so much.  You can’t explain it, it’s just the way you are!  How can we possibly give rational explanations to our sexual preferences?  Some men tell me that they were attracted to pantyhose since the age of 4 or 5.

If a woman truly loves her man, of course she’d be dying to dress up in clothes that make him want her so badly!  If you think about it, who else would be more important to impress with your outfit than your own lover?  Wouldn’t you want to be attractive for her too?

But what if she is not attentive to your needs and tells you that she doesn’t want to wear this kind of clothing for you, no matter how nicely you ask her?  Well, if she is your girlfriend, as hard as it is to say, I suggest you move on and find another girl that would love to please you.  If this is your wife, it’s time to have a serious conversation – could that be that she feels that her needs are not met, therefore she became cold to your desires?

The reason why I believe that couples should be absolutely compatible when it comes to sexuality is because once you marry, you can’t ask any other person for sexual satisfaction except for your own spouse.  This is what makes this union special – romance, love, sexuality.  Great conversations can exist between friends and co-workers, but sexual  intimacy is something else.

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