Pretty Garters – Guest Post Opportunity

I am looking for guest bloggers to write about garters for cross-promotion.

What a pretty accessory, but where did it come from?  At least traditionally, garters were meant to be worn in pairs with stockings to prevent them from falling down.  But isn’t it kind of bad for circulation?

Inna, the woman who did my “history of hosiery” page, said that first stay up stockings came out around 60’s.  Maybe that’s what made the garter obsolete.

There was also something online saying that there used to be tradition of a garter being brought back by the groom to show that he “did it” with the bride.  Some weddings still use it.  I find it kind of immodest, for sure would not want anything of this sort at my own wedding.

But do you notice that women wear these mostly without any stockings at all now?  I’ve been to Can Cun and they had some young bride there walking around in a mini dress, garter, and flip flops.  Can’t get funnier than this!  It was in the evening, so you can’t blame the heat.

I figured I’ll post this and see if anyone would like to do a guest post on this topic.

Fetish and Dating advice from Juicy Life

I had a pleasure to talk about dating with a sexual health educator, Jane Langton, from a Juicy Life.  She is a friendly person with a modern outlook on sexuality.  I decided to ask her about common questions that I get through this blog.

Since this blog is about hosiery, we get a lot of male visitors who have a fetish for pantyhose or stockings and are sometimes afraid to admit to it when they start dating.

Due to the nature of the garment, most of hosiery fetishists are male, but advice given in this article is applicable to any gender.

 

When is it best to tell the partner about your sexual preferences and fetishes, right away or when there is already a deep emotional attachment?  Sometimes I get people telling me that their wife does not want to share their sexual preferences and that causes a lot of tension in the family.

 Jane’s Answer:

It is more challenging to introduce something that is considered by some as kinky later on in the relationship.  We don’t always have the courage to tell our partner who we really are, so we open up later. 

Don’t be upset if the partner is not comfortable with this new addition to your repertoire, because you didn’t tell them upfront about your preference.  Be mindful of their thoughts and put yourself in their shoes. 

Being honest is important.  If your partner is committed to being with you, you can take it slowly and introduce things, create a way to express your fetish in a way that appeals to both of you.Checking in along the way. Explore together.

Take small steps.  It also helps to do research together. It can be fear preventing  your partner from saying “yes” to something out of their comfort zone.  They don’t know what it means if their male partner is wearing stockings.

In fact, it doesn’t mean anything.  It is exploration, role-playing, and it’s normal.  It doesn’t imply their sexuality or gender at all.  For example, look at the Kinsey scale that was created by Albert Kinsey in 1948 to represent sexuality, 0 being heterosexual and 6 being homosexual.  According to Kinsey many of us are between 1 and 5 and not are not 0 or 6!  Also, within our lifetime, we will change. Our preferences will change.  So do your best to be honest with your partner early on in your relationship and most importantly have fun!

 

Please visit Jane’s website for more information about her.  She has a free newsletter and an online store full of fun products for your bedroom.  Even though she is Vancouver based, she offers virtual sessions over skype or phone to people from other areas.

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I asked for an opinion from men who have a fetish and it looked like all of them (those who answered me, of course) agreed with Jane about honesty being the best policy.  Here is what they said.

What do you think?  Do you tell your partner about your sexual preferences upfront?  Can our peers offer some dating advice?

Gentleman A

To me it just seems like common sense. If you’re trying to be in a stable relationship, 100% honesty is key. If you’re just in it for the sex… well, it’s only logical to admit to a fetish.  Either way it’s not only a good idea to be up front, it’s quite important to.

I told my wife about my fetishes (I have foot fetish as well as a pantyhose fetish) early on when we were dating.  She wasn’t put off at all; she was rather intrigued by it.  She asked me questions and I was open and honest. Our sex life was better off for it, as was our emotional attachment to each other.

Gentleman B

Your relationship with a particular woman needs to be honest and sincere. Your true feelings for her – (sexually and non sexually) need and should come first!  Early on your dating/courtship, it should surface. Don’t be forceful, rude, or anything like that. From her point of view, a pantyhose fetish can be welcomed, as long as it’s not extreme.  Good luck.

 Gentleman C

I have always expressed it within the first couple of dates.  Never had anyone freak out or leave me because of it.  Most are really accepting.

 Gentleman D

You’d be surprised of the number of ladies I’ve dated and shared my fetish and love of pantyhose on women. I’d usually tell them about it, right after the first sexual encounter.
I learned early:  first satisfy a women in bed and she’ll be most willing to satisfy your every wish.  Within reason, of course.  When sharing my fetish, many were aroused by the thought and some had some kinky wishes, too.  I’ve never had any bad experiences in sharing this with women I’ve dated.  All in all, it’s been a lot of fun and I’d do it all again.

 Gentleman E

As long as you trust her, have genuine feelings for her and truly want be with her and she feels the same way about you, by all means tell her about your fetish before it’s too late. Not when proposing or after marriage. Common sense prevails.

 Gentleman F

I’m upfront with the women I date, and they all are fine with it. Best to be honest with them about it, and if they like you, then they would be more than happy to wear pantyhose for you.

 

*Friends, the only funding for this blog is from the shop section.  Please indulge your pantyhose obsession and show some support for my work!  Your purchases make this blog possible.*

Women in Red – more attractive! (according to a study)

Supermodel Natalia Vodianova is wearing all red, but in my opinion this Slavic beauty is overdoing it. I’ve been taught not to wear only one colour.

 

 Is Red the colour of Love?

I read something interesting in Vancouver’s Metro Newspaper.  A new study looked at what attracts men to women – it proved that red is really the colour of love!  Never estimate the power of a woman in red.

Men were asked to look at photos of women.  Part of those photos either involved a woman wearing red or were framed in red borders.  As a result, women either surrounded by red or wearing red were ranked to be most attractive.

  • Women in Red

  • – more attractive
  • – more sexually desired
  • – more likely to be asked out
  • – more likely to be spent more money on

Primitive, isn’t it?  I guess that can help women to determine what colour dress to wear to a date with someone you’d like to impress.   I think it’s time for me to add more red to my wardrobe!

 

In some cultures the word “red” is actually the same word as “beautiful”.  For example, in old Slavic languages saying “red maiden” was equivalent to “beautiful maiden”.  This expression can still be found in old Slavic folk songs.

This article reminds me of something that I’ve read in a book called E-Myth about business. It turns out that blue business suits will outsell brown business suits, regardless of who is in them. We don’t notice, but a lot of our decisions are not logical decisions at all, rather subconscious.

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*Friends, the only funding for this blog is from the shop section.  Please indulge your pantyhose obsession and show some support for my work!  Your purchases make this blog possible.*

Source: Metro Vancouver Newspaper, March 2012

for open-minded only: Novelty Stores

Sometimes I visit a local novelty store in Vancouver on Granville street from time to time to chat with the owner and I may buy an item or two for novelty entertainment.

It’s a taboo topic to some people to even talk about this kind of stuff. World’s famous sexologists recommend couples to visit this kind of places, so do I. Sexuality is a big part of your life, no matter whether you accept it or deny it.

It’s kind of funny, but whenever I am stuck with some kind of computer problems I call there because the owner is very-well skilled with all the tech stuff.  Yes, I call the sex shop to get help with my computer homework!

Isn’t that a novelty already?

Almost dropped my garter belt on Valentine’s

I used to have garter belts of different sizes for different fits – waist, hip, and low rise. Now I am only keeping the smallest one.

Sexy Ideas for Valentine’s Day?  Garter belt seemed just right!

I decided to dress up and wear non-stay up (regular old fashioned style) stockings and a garter belt under my knee high skirt on my Valentine’s outing to dinner.

Everything looked excellent when I put it on and my garter belt rested gracefully just above my hips like a pair of low rise pants.

As I was walking to and from the restaurant, I ran into complications.  Stockings began to pull on the garter belt and due to stretchy fabric my belt began to slide down past my hips.

I kept on trying to pull it up, but I was afraid that it may just fall down together with the stockings.  This style would work great in the bedroom for a decorative purpose, but not when you are actually planning to wear it out and do some walking. Later I learned that proper garter belts have at least 6 straps, like those from Gigi’s Intimates.

suspender belt

My stockings were tugging on the garter belt and almost pulled it past my hips as I was walking.

At that point I realized why the other garter belt that I have (comes in a matching set with stockings) is supposed to sit on the waist.

I didn’t like that idea at first since I prefer more of a low rise fit, but now I understand that at least this way it stays where it’s supposed to and won’t slide off my hips.

Later I also realized that some suspender belts tend to unclip, so it’s also important to wear it for half an hour or so at home before going out to see whether suspender straps actually hold on to your stockings.  Once I wore a garter belt and it unclipped 9 times throughout the day.  I counted!

*Friends, please check the hosiery shop section, that’s the only source of funding for the blog.  Please have a look at all the lovely stockings! There are also a few good garter belts there that were not available at the time that I wrote this post. They are new additions – Vision by Fiore and Vesuvio by Fiore.*

Pantyhose that Imitate Stockings

This is a cool peekaboo surprise under a skirt – Fiore pantyhose

Have you tried pantyhose that imitate stockings?  There are many names for it… mock stockings, suspender tights, faux stockings… For sure it’s not for everybody, but I love these pantyhose! 

Today I wore it with a medium length skirt and got a lot of compliments from both genders. 

They are very cute, especially with the sparkle from metallic Lurex fibre on the fake garters that go up to the waist.  They are sheer on top and more opaque at the bottom with a cotton gusset and reinforced toe. 

These pantyhose are by Fiore, it’s a Polish manufacturer of hosiery that is now available in Canada.  As you can see, my shop section is full of it!

Milla in "plum" shade

Milla in “plum” shade – available at the shop section!  Please support me with your purchases.

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Note added at a later date:

I am glad to say that I got to model for Finn Magazine, wearing such mock stocking pantyhose!

My mock stocking pantyhose

*Friends, the only funding for this blog is from the shop section.  Please indulge your pantyhose obsession and show some support for my work!  Your purchases make this blog possible.*

 

Wearing garters over pantyhose (or stockings)

They say that garters are still around because of the old wedding tradition when the groom had to prove that he “did it” with the bride.  Well, I’m glad they are!  I find them super sexy.

It’s a lovely little accessory that only seems to show up at weddings during completely immodest scenes of the groom climbing under the bride’s skirt in public.  In my opinion, this is entertainment for some semi-drunk boys at the wedding, but hardly a sensual moment between the couple considering that perhaps their parents are also watching.

In our private life, if given enough creative imagination, such accessories can add some fire to your intimacy.  Here are some ideas that come to my head.  Feel free to share your ideas, I’ll add them to the list.

Garters are not expensive, you can find some for about $5 in a novelty store and there is really no need to pay more.  Is there a practical application to a garter?  No, not anymore, but in the old days it was used to hold up stockings.   But that’s the beauty of it, it’s worn purely for attention.

1) Peek-a-boo:  If you wear a garter with a loose skirt, it could be a nice peek-a-boo surprise for your husband.  You may totally catch him off guard if you do it in the elevator, for example.

2) Strap for holding surprise tickets:  I can also totally see it as part of presentation for a surprise pair of tickets.  Imagine, you tell him that you have a surprise for him and tell him to search you like a police man in order to find it.

3) Strip-tease:  It could be part of the tease when doing a naughty dance.  It is one more fun item to work with.

Do you have any ideas about garters that you want to share?

 

*Friends, the only funding for this blog is from the shop section.  Please indulge your pantyhose obsession and show some support for my work!  Your purchases make this blog possible.*

Pantyhose Obsession and Fetish

black opaque pantyhose

f-e-t-i-s-h …  dangerous topic.  Yes, pantyhose obsession is not uncommon.  #1 obsession in the world is shoes.  #2 is pantyhose and stockings.

I had a lot of men telling me that they have a love for hosiery.  Why wouldn’t a man be attracted to such a feminine garment?  I think this is the most classiest kink out there.

Some have difficulty explaining to their partner about why they like it so much.  You can’t explain it, it’s just the way you are!  How can we possibly give rational explanations to our sexual preferences?  Some men tell me that they were attracted to pantyhose since the age of 4 or 5.

If a woman truly loves her man, of course she’d be dying to dress up in clothes that make him want her so badly!  If you think about it, who else would be more important to impress with your outfit than your own lover?  Wouldn’t you want to be attractive for her too?

But what if she is not attentive to your needs and tells you that she doesn’t want to wear this kind of clothing for you, no matter how nicely you ask her?  Well, if she is your girlfriend, as hard as it is to say, I suggest you move on and find another girl that would love to please you.  If this is your wife, it’s time to have a serious conversation – could that be that she feels that her needs are not met, therefore she became cold to your desires?

The reason why I believe that couples should be absolutely compatible when it comes to sexuality is because once you marry, you can’t ask any other person for sexual satisfaction except for your own spouse.  This is what makes this union special – romance, love, sexuality.  Great conversations can exist between friends and co-workers, but sexual  intimacy is something else.

*Friends, the only funding for this blog is from the shop section.  Please indulge your pantyhose obsession and show some support for my work!  Your purchases make this blog possible.*